Ask me anything!

??? · 21h

Does Tessa use Linux? If so, which distro?

she doesn't currently - she is defying fedigirl expectations!

Eri · 18h

??? · 11d

How much money would you take to bleach your hair (assuming the dye job is free)?

is this a like, "how much would we have to pay you to do this on a dare?" sort of question? $0 in that case, this sounds fun! :-) i've had dyed hair before and it was cool - although i haven't ever gone to a salon or bleached it myself at home

Eri · 10d

??? · 20d

if you have a job, do you work in tech? If so, what? (e.g. software engineer, sysadmin, data scientist, et al.)?

i currently don't have a job, as i'm disabled and managing my health

for 11 years though starting as a teenager i was a public servant and did IT work (workstation management, service desk, infrastructure)

i miss it in a lot of ways... other parts of me want to do something else if i work again

Eri · 19d

??? · 27d

Do you prefer skinny or baggy jeans?

i like more form-fitting jeans personally :-)

Eri · 27d

??? · 1mo

What's your favorite animal noise?

probably the inscrutable sounds foxes make lol, love those lil critters

Eri · 1mo

??? · 1mo

When did you start your transition? Already at younger age?

That's a good question! :-) Here's a fuller picture for all the context:

I knew at some level as a kid that I was a girl, although I never had the words for it. There were signs during early childhood, and during my teen years, but I was punished for expressing myself in a feminine way growing up and so I repressed it until I couldn't anymore.
I accepted I was transgender in August of 2018 shortly after turning 26. I almost immediately feminized my appearance as much as I could - literally over a weekend. Shortly thereafter I started seeing a therapist for gender dysphoria, and that winter I started laser hair removal.
I started hormone replacement therapy in January of 2019.
I "went public" and only went by Erika from that point forward in March of 2019.

I'm so grateful I did all this - it turned my life right-side up!

Eri · 1mo

??? · 1mo

Meow?

*purrs and makes a biscuit...

Eri · 1mo

??? · 1mo

i remember your post where you installed elementary os. do you still use it? if not, what do you use now?

i don't still use it - i appreciate the values of the project, but it didn't fit my needs. i'm using mx linux now :-) i am running it across all of my devices and love it - best linux distro i've ever used

Eri · 1mo

??? · 1mo

What prevents you from moving closer to your loved one(s)?

a lot of logistics, honestly - moving across the country isn't easy! there have been some more private, circumstantial reasons as well that i won't dive into here; although they are not as relevant now

tentatively i'll be moving next calendar year :3

Eri · 1mo

??? · 2mo

who was your first lesbian crush, fictional or otherwise?

oh gosh, let's see... that'd be a girl named Kathleen back when i was in 2nd grade, so 8 years old? i was standing up on the school bus to get off at my stop and she pulled me down onto her lap by my backpack and kissed me on the cheek and that... awoke something in me, lol

fun fact, i got to come out to her as trans many years ago and she was super happy for me and supportive! :-)

Eri · 2mo