hmm someone who can match my freak, stimulate my mind, listen to me talk about bl / manhwa / danmei, contribute meaningfully to conversations, love me for how complex i am, seem genuinely interested in my interests, understand i have lots of hobbies, has a strong sense of self, provide emotional support, is kind and positive, honest, caring, is vocal about their feelings, can talk dirty in a way that isn’t cringe, can deal with my mood swings and answer my constant “would you love me if i were…” questions without ever getting bored or annoyed, has eyes only for me, can cope with my “i want short hair no no this time i want long hair” phases, is willing to deal with ups and downs maturely