my beanie babies 💗 · 1d
i'll ask u another one, do you think to love is to change or to let go
if i must choose, i think love is to change
or maybe im too weak to actually let go 🤔 but i am not ashamed of that, i love to love and i don't feel the need to let someone go from my thoughts even if they are no longer in my life, does that make sense?
i mean it's occasionally v heavy n it does take space in my mind and heart but im not sure if i hate that
it's comforting to have a memory
I think it’s both, or just depending on the person. Some people move on easily, whereas others don’t. I think love is sacrifice and commitment—if you’re willing to do those things for the person you love, and them too vice versa, then I think it can create a strong relationship with the potential to last a long time.
But if one person doesn’t share the same values, then it’s best to let go imo. Habits can change, but it’s hard to change values without having the life experience to back it.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with keeping memories of someone! Others might feel differently, but as someone who does scrapbooking and gifts scrapbooks to others, I’d like to think they hold onto them even after we drift apart. Same thing with keeping pictures in your camera roll. If you start dating someone who’s not comfortable with you keeping pictures/belongings of your ex, then it’s up to you to decide whether to change for that person or find someone else who shares the same sentiment (either option is perfectly valid imo).
I say hold onto those thoughts because you only live once and every memory is precious in this lifetime <3
