anonymous · 1mo
hello. how was ur week.
i saw ur twt about ur feelings about ur best friend. i think that its not always great to aim for exclusivity or worrying about always being first priority in friendships because it can be hurtful. like your friend might not even see the term best friend in the way you do and might just throw the word around (possibly maybe not idk). and theres def some people in this world like you who value strong one on one friendships like that and some people who like having a ton of surface level friends etc so its not like everyones the same socially. i think finding a true best friend is unfortunately just requires someone of a similar mindset who builds deeper relationships
But anyways, you said you were upset because she seems to talk to you about other friends but not to her other friends ab you. But like let me just ask if shes your best friend wouldnt it make sense shes more comfortable to talk to you about everything and hence other people so yk about them but she doesnt go yap to her random coworkers and other friends about that kinda stuff and so they dont know ab you ? idk this was what i thought could seem logical. you maybe are overthinking this idk. i know for sure id talk to my closer friends about the happenings in my life more than id tell less close friends, and so my close friends could end up knowing who people are but those people dont know who they are. if you get what im saying. i dont actually know anything tho im just guessing
also that friend you had conflict with is so weird man. just block him and tell him to f off 😭 you gotta to just stand up for yourself bruh theres some weird people out there. dontt get scared get angry like fuck that guy for being a weirdo. ok easier said than done but like try not to let it cause you long lasting anxiety he cant do anything to you sometimesnits easiee to get pissed instead of anxious.
on the whole friend topic, like real talk, its ok to not have friends or be alone sometimes. theres no problem being alone and i think once people figure that out it brings bit more peace to life. humans are naturally social creaturs thou so its understandable to seek interaction. but youre not a loser or a bad person if you lose a friend. its just like it is what it is .
i have a question today and its about ed. if u dont wanna answer just ignore it. ill preface by saying although i relate to a lot of issues you talk ab on twt i dont know anything bout ed so sry if im being insensitive i just wanted to learn a bit more about it cos i actually see lotta people struggle with it with mental health issues. from what i understand it comes in like a lotta differwnt forms but it can be like a fear of gaining weight or trying to lose weight. body image anxiety fear etc. If one with an eating disorder logically knows they are at a healthy weight/bmi, and knows that it is unhealthy to push it further, what causes then to do so? is it just intense fear and anxiety? I know such tendencies can be developed early in life from trauma etc and maybe linked to OCD. is it just natural like its hard to resist, say someone with a rly bad ed just told themselves its time to eat X amt of food per day which was calculated to be a healthy amt would it be impossible to follow? and do they logically know that they might be damaging their health but are forced to do so because negative emotions are causing then to? I guess another way to phrase it is do a lot if people sufferinf from ed desire to be healthy but cannot or is it more like they donr care about being healthy at all. Does the gym/working out also come into play if the goal is to lose weight? Sorry if this doesnt make sense.
Anyways sorry for the long text block again. One more question do you read any manga and whats ur fav if you do. Stay strong!
hello i recognize ur writing style. if u want to dm me its kinda lengthy to talk ab the ed stuff. u can respond with ur @ i will open dms for a little bit i wont answer ur @ comment if u do obv. if you don’t want to that’s ok.
- my week has been pretty bad tbh but im hoping it gets better. i am not doing well but i am trying -i agree with ur points ab the bf. i think i just have never had one reciprocated & maybe i romanticized it. i am def just Wanting it so bad & being insecure & in my own head& im also a very anxious person in terms of relationships
- never thought about like that. to your point the friends who don’t remember my name were ppl she’s told me she wasn’t super close with/ had just got to know better recently. it’s a very good point and i appreciate u for bringing that perspective here. i think u honestly may be right…like why would i go into details ab my close friends lives to newer or less close friends in that way…this feeling def stems from my insecurities -it’s finally over i think. my friend he’s been bothering told him to leave us alone & he hasn’t reached out since & is keeping his distance. he has seemed petty & wanting to prolong things which is why it kept going on but i Hope that was it -ed: there’s a few types & levels so it’s not as simple to just summarize, but for many they have an ocd type level of desire for control & fear of gaining weight. also comes down to insecurity too like u hate how u look so much you’re willing to do xyz kinda like a way of self harm i suppose or way to control/seem in control (spoiler u are not in control 💀). for me personally i know exactly what im doing & most ppl who have an ed are acutely aware almost like a professional in terms of knowledge of nutrition & diet bc u hyperfixate on it kinda like an addiction, so i know what im doing & where im at is unhealthy but i guess i just want to be as small as possible bc i feel like a burden & take up too much space that idc the means to get there. u can compare it to drug addicts bc they Know what they’re doing & it’s bad for them but they keep doing it bc it’s like a high so most ppl with an ed don’t want to be healthy Looking perhaps, maybe healthy so they don’t get the bad symptoms, but generally it’s a distorted image of self leading one to go to extreme measures to achieve their desired look. exercise addiction is usually seen in bp subtype or bulimia or orthorexia as a way to “punish” or cancel out calories consumed
i haven’t read any manga recently but ive read lots of manhwa/webtoons. leviathan was pretty good & who made me a princess
