https://x.com/heaveninbusan/status/2047664282892947594?s=46&t=u4SaHzTFQzWdjNJUhIQCjg hai! im not the same anon but ill tell you hehe (also im a bit rusty bc its been almost three years since ive learnt abt this so excuse me if i make any mistakes) + im also not generalising because everyone is different!! these are just the basics :)
there are 4 attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant and disorganised (beomgyu is anxious and yeonjun is avoidant).
anxious - people with an anxious attachment style tend to have negative view abt themselves, but have a positive view of others. this means that, in relationships, they tend to view their partner as “better than them”. they also deem themselves to be underserving of love in comparison to others and the thought of living without their partner or being alone in general frightens them (they fear abandonment). in a relationship, they tend to want their partner to be more responsive, attentive and caring to lessen their feelings of anxiety.
avoidant - people with this attachment style tend to have a positive view of themselves, but a negative view of others. they tend to be more independent and when it comes to relationships, they believe that they do not need to be in one as they don’t want to depend on someone else and have someone depend on them. they tend to avoid intimacy so they may back out from a relationship if they feel like someone’s becoming reliant on them and (like yeonjun), they tend to hide their feelings when faced with situations like conflict.
disorganised - this attachment style is just a mix of both anxious and avoidant (it just depends on their mood). in relationships, they desire intimacy and closeness but also have a hard time trusting people and depending on others. people with this attachment style often struggle to express & identify their emotions and avoid strong emotional attachment due to their fear of getting hurt.
secure - as you can probably tell by the name, someone who has a secure attachment style expresses their emotions openly. they let their partners rely on them and vice versa. unlike people with an anxious attachment style, people who are secure don’t fear being abandoned and don’t seek for extra attention.
when it comes to beomgyu and yeonjun’s, it’s pretty obvious what their relationship would be like from what i explained above. 😭 LMFAO sorry i don’t have enough time left to explain it fully, but you can assume that beomgyu would crave intimacy while yeonjun would push him away.. yeonjun wouldn’t want beomgyu to get too reliant on him and would distance himself which would reinforce beomgyu’s fear of abandonment as he feels rejected by yeonjun. in other words, there would be angst and lots of it. 💔
anyways, i’ve tried my best to explain everything 🥹 lmk if you have any more questions!!! have a good day <3
oh this is sooo interesting, thank you anon!! i've been just scrolling by every time i see these words - they've meant as much to me as mbti or zodiac signs (which isn't to say "nothing" just, idk anything about anything you know?) anyway this sounds like a NIGHTMARE putting those two types together lmaoooo. great for us angst enjoyers though!! this is definitely something i'm going to keep in mind going forward with my writing too!
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