Oh having to mask in any way is super distressing - I experienced that with my neurotype and my gender identity. Once I came out as trans I stopped masking both.

I will say that at least socially I am much more of an ADHD girl than an autism one (not that either is a monolith, but generally speaking).

Although even still, trying to be accommodated, at work for example, was impossible for me so I definitely felt a lot of pain there. Turns out a majority of people a very limited capacity to mentalize, at least in my experience - and it sucks when they're the ones who hold the power in a situation.

Thanks for the question! :-)