It was a gradual process followed by a big deconstruction. For me, I always knew I had different feelings about myself and things that were interesting to me, things that made me feel tingles in certain ways and never really knew how to like, ascribe to anything. I certainly knew about kink in a conceptual way and all that in my late teens, but I heard about munches through a friend of mine at the time innnn I wanna say 2007? And once I started going and hearing terms and processes and rigor put to so many things that made people tick, things that felt esoteric like my mind did, I realized that it was just another thing with structure, and it had an answer. Following that led me to one of the most important discoveries of my life, and a couple years after that I made kink a learning/growth experience every chance I had to get out and do it. I spent some years in a tragic situation shortly after, but once I was back on my feet again I started back up and made every effort to learn more, eventually going to dungeons, which led to private parties, which led to eventually teaching and running classes and my own munch, etc. etc. and yeah, now it's maybe the most important part of me.