Curious Fox 𓃦 · 7h
Thank you for the reply, Mia. For a moment I thought I went too cynical with that cruelty pov.
Your points on compassion really stayed with me. I agree that a lot of people lack it nowadays, and honestly, I lack the proactive, effortful kind you described too. I tend to hold back cuz i respect people enough to believe they can solve their own problems. Pity feels like humiliation to me, so I usually wait until they ask for help. I want them to come out stronger on their own.
I’m aware this shifts the burden onto the person who’s already suffering. But I’ve also met people who prefer that respect over unsolicited help. Still, I know even this approach can be selfish sometimes cuz in the back of my mind, I’m partly trying to avoid feeling guilty for not helping. Emotions are way too complex.
Also, don’t take Hannibal too seriously. He’s just a fascinating character to me. I love diving deep into what he actually means- that man speaks in Times New Roman all the time.
And I noticed you changed “anonymous coward” to “curious fox.” I accept that I can be petty about such small things 😂
Thank you again for your words.
-MirrorCrush
MC, I understand the seesaw-like conflict, however I think the true meaning of compassion is misunderstood.
Compassion does not equal pity. And it definitely does not mean "I will solve this for you".
While some truly do appreciate solitude, if you approach someone with the mindset of "pity" and "fix it" then of course, you will feel like your self respect and respect for them is less than when they flatly deny your "unsolicited help" however, the biggest difference, is reminding someone that they are not alone in their journey.. that right there is compassion.
I said it in the last tell, compassion is saying "I will try" not "I will do".
And to not try at all just proves the point that compassion is so misunderstood and so profoundly lacking that humanity had lost touch with it all together. Would you really rather struggle along your journey with no one to talk to, no one to understand, and no one to relate?
I don't. I want someone who'd remind me, "I'm here if you need me" "I'm willing to learn how I could help you if you needed it" or.. (and this is the hardest for people to wrap their heads around for some reason) "I'm willing to be silently by your side so that even your shadow could reach out and know it's not alone"
"Unsolicited help" comes only from assumption, and I've been told "Assuming makes an ass out of you and me"
whispers..compassion is also reliant on listening, more than talking.. I know, that's very difficult for nearly every creature, but it's worth it.. you learn a hell of a lot more.
Don't "feel guilty for not helping" because it's not your place to. But don't turn a blind eye to a stretched-out hand, either.
As for Hannibal, I've never gotten into anything related (don't come after me, please) but you've made me interested. I also just watched "APEX" and there's a moment in there that reminded me of our discussion.
Some love can be so profound and terrifying that you need it closer than humanly possible.. and all I could think after was "What happened in that character's past to make them feel so thoroughly abandoned and hollow that they'd have to possess everything they cared for in such means"
Anyways, I got distracted. Also, haha. Yes. I realized we can change the anon names and I figured something closer to my own name would do better.
Only one other person knows this but my nickname is Fox in another language, and I've always considered my readers my kits, so my anons will be my Curious Fox(es). That's all. 😆
~Mia
