Great question, Grayson wouldn’t if he had the choice. He despises labels as they feel chafing and restricting to him. So, instead, I will describe. Grayson is attracted to all genders, with a particular affinity for cis women and trans men. But! He is largely demisexual, needing a connection, a relationship with depth before he feels sexual attraction. I also would place him somewhere on the ace spectrum as he really does prefer masturbation over sexual encounters with other people. He also has deep, deep seated intimacy issues that color all of this. It affects how he feels about intimate interactions with others and largely colors his preference for masturbation over sexual encounters. I would also call him demiromantic, even more so than his demisexuality, but even that I would say is colored by his struggle to connect with people. He very much operates in the manner of if it exposes my vulnerability I don’t want it.

Alice would describe herself as bisexual! I would agree with that assessment. Alice is trans-inclusive in her meaning of bisexual, but she has a preference for cis men.

I think Alice would say they take part in the queer community, Grayson would say they don’t, and I agree with Grayson. I don’t think going to the Pride Parade every so often (more often Alice than Grayson) counts as participating in the community. Alice would say she goes to queer events and I would say kink does NOT inherently equal queer, Alice. She thinks because she’s bi and has queer interactions at these events that it counts and I shake my head in disappointment at her. Grayson doesn’t participate in the queer community because Grayson doesn’t really participate in community, period. Doing things with the kink community in Chicago is exhausting to him and he only keeps it up in honor of his late mentor Dominic.