I think writing smut is like writing any other scene, it’s all about the ebb and flow of it. I always map it out ahead of time: what I want each to give and receive, specific places I want them to touch or focus on (hand around the neck, focusing kisses on collarbones, sucking bruises into x, rimming etc etc) and choose the position that works best for all those. If you were writing an action scene, you’d be mapping out where everyone is in the room, their stance, does anything in the room help them and how they’re going to move through the scene. Then you’d think about the bits throughout (the action shots and movements) and then the, well, climax. Which is the same for smut. I like to make quick notes to plan out the movements just like that and everything I want to include and that also gives me excellent prompts for later.

Most of my own experience writing yaoi comes from years and years of reading it. Sure, real porn helps sometimes, and watching BL shows etc is a good source of inspiration but ultimately your imagination is always going to be the best thing to fill in the gaps. What you need to remember is that you’re not looking to write realistic porn; that’s a whole different genre of writing and we don’t do it that much unless you’re looking to portray that realistic take on it. If you are, then I’d say look at various Reddit threads and people’s recounting of their own experiences there, that’s what really helped me with research for my own BDSM fic. I’ve been in a relationship with a woman for 10 years lmao so I certainly don’t have first hand experience of male/male (and variations of) sex.

Otherwise, just map it out and write. You might have seen I’m a big supporter of writing sprints as well because I find oftentimes we just overthink our writing, so it’s easier to get something on a page and get out of your head, especially when it comes to writing smut. Once your head is in it, sometimes your brain leads the charge to some wonderful ideas you didn’t even think about lmao I hope that helped even a tiny bit! I could talk about stuff like this over and over haha sorry for the rant 😅