hmm, this is, complex, i have several things to say— what’s helped me the most is understanding where others are coming from fundamentally, but also allowing yourself to be a separate person with differing feelings and perspectives.

uncertain if this is conventional, but being able to place myself in the shoes of someone who is, clearly feeling strongly in some way, understanding and dissecting their motivations, concerns, needs… analyzing whether it comes from a good place. you get to decide what you do with that information and how it applies to you or your personal beliefs, once you understand the core motivation of how someone is treating you, you take it a lot less personally.

common motivations being fear of what they don’t understand, rigid beliefs they’ve accustomed themselves to, a lack of critical thought, fear mongering, guilt by association, genuine concern of harm(for the record, this is totally normal/innocent but it is NOT a justification for doing harm onto others which is where many go wrong), lack of desire to understand others that differ from them or to broaden their perspective, disgust, assuming the worst about people, believing garbage being spewed with no evidence, etc. use your judgment.

how people treat you is a reflection of how they view the world and what they’re projecting onto you, whether it’s true or false. perception of you is going to vary person to person, regardless. it doesn’t make things people say about you (that aren’t true) necessarily Fact. this extends to every area of life. at the same time be real with yourself at the same time and reflect on the image you’re putting out into the world as well, of course.

think about what you value before you make decisions.
do you value people know how you really feel?
is it worth the potential pushback?
do you value authenticity more than blending in?
would you like to attract a more like-minded audience?
would your audience throw you off a cliff if given the chance. how do you feel about it? lmfao.
what are the consequences vs rewards?

putting yourself out there can mean being misunderstood. being misunderstood can hurt if it’s something you value - but always remember, each person has a different image of you in their mind, and just because one (or several) people understand you as something you don’t feel is accurate… doesn’t mean there aren’t others that won’t perceive you more accurately to the person you intend to be.

losing strangers online isn’t the worst, a bit disheartening sometimes, but i always view it as an incompatibility- if xyz is something they value so strongly they must rid themselves of you. not really your fault

anyway, good luck 💕🎼🌈🍀