Gender essentialism in basically all forms is a pretty core tenet of TERF/fascist gender politics. As a lesbian woman i have -many- a frustration with Men™️, the gendered class within the patriarchy. But as a trans woman i also know, first hand, that there is no Biological Inevitability within Male Humans that makes them like that. There is not an innate, dominant, superior, aggressive, harmful MAN™️ within all males. There isnt a man at all in quite a few of us.

The "All Men are X" adage, despite sounding anti-patriarchal on the surface, is in fact a tool the patriarchy uses to keep itself going and hamstring actual means to tear it down. And that kind of gender essentialism is one way you get people who will never ever see trans people, of any sort, as anything but a threat.

I often express frustrations with Men™️. Theres much to be had. Summa you bitches say and do some truly vexing shit gender style and sometimes all i can do is throw up my hands and exclaim "men!!". Its gonna happen. But even still, i do not believe gender essentialism is the way. There are men who are good. Imperfect, as any of us are, but good. I have men i love and trust and cherish in my life. Men whose struggles i can see and empathize with, who are hurt by the same system that hurts me.

All this to say, please continue along your gender journey, wherever it takes you. You do not need to atone for some kind of male original sin. If you are not a man, you are not a man. If you are a man, you have the capacity to be whatever manhood is TO YOU.