freak · 18d
haiiii, hope you doing good
with very different context of your last tweet about "feel ashamed being a jm fan when these are the people I'm grouped with. Just toxicity and hypocrisy all around" is kinda saddened me because i think you're cool so does gi and everyone either it from the group friends of yours or them and i'm liking it you know for having so much cool person on the same fandom (lame? i know🤣) but also yeah there's no denying that unfortunately every fandom has their toxic side and it sucks to be generalized or grouped as one
so.. it just that i really get how you can feel that way about this fandom while at the same time maybe i do get why people did what they did. like talking in general in fandom culture i genuinely greatful for people who have tried to support their faves, but i also believe there are so many ways to love and support an idol beyond what we typically associate with being a fan. so much in the name of support or 'protecting' the artist but also like if the support involves harassing others and driving people out of the community, i think they’re not protecting the artist it's destroying the very culture and community that allows people to find joy in it in the first place :( like i'm not targeting or siding with one this is more like my frustration how apparently even within the same fandom we somehow still fight with eo when maybe we just have a different way to love and appreciate, way to contribute to the community or maybe im just too naive (lol) just let's all love and heal please 🥹
sorry if this come out as weird and that i lump it on you, you don't have to respond or anything just so you know i appreciate you and wishing you well 🫶
Hii, thank you so much for the kind words! Really appreciate them ♡
For my comment under that post, one of the reasons I deleted it was because I realised I was generalizing too much - not all jaemin fans are like this, it's just that unfortunately, the nanadoongies I tried to get close with had... questionable morals to say the least. I'll try and give some more context below!
I do agree with your point about how there could be different kinds of support from fans! What I don't like though, is someone implying you are less of a fan/can't express personal opinions on the music and idol just because you don't tweet about voting everyday or participate in fanwars. We shouldnt be allowed to portray others as inferior just because we don't know whether they vote or the amount of money they've spent on Dream — that's not only disrespectful to longtime fans who aren't constantly online, it also makes you look like a jerk for trying to control what the 'lesser' fans say or do on their own accounts. That's the issue I had with Gi – her post sounded so... hateful (and I'm pretty sure it stems from Jester saying he doesn't like one of Dream's tts, which if true is just such a stupid reason to get mad 💀).
Still, I was genuinely curious why she thought that way and tried to ask her about it in chat. I've uh... had this suspicion she didn't like me much before, but I still tried to start a nuanced convo with her cuz I genuinely wanted to be friends! She blocked me immediately, I was naturally irritated so I made a post about it, she quoted it yet refused to acknowledge how weirdly she behaved, yadda yadda you probably know what happened afterwards. I don't want anything to do with her anymore, nor her close friends who didn't even try to understand my point. They're free to do whatever as long as they leave me and my friends out of it...
Anyways, as you said we should all love each other 🫂 it sucks how exactly the ones I wanted to befriend had to act so dense and hostile as to tarnish my view of twt jaem fans, but it's (for the most part) fine now. You sound so sweet, feel free to message me if you wanna talk (*´▽｀)
